Some excellent advice from Ta-Nehisi Coates:
" ... Never trust anyone posing as a tour guide. Learning things is hard. Do the work.
"Never trust that part of you that wants a tour guide. All of us are
tempted by the Cliff-Notes. Decline them. Sometimes you must wander
through The Louvre. ...
"Never try to look cool and learn something at the same time. You must have an awkward phase. All of us would like to skip that awkward phase. That is not how it works. Here is how it works: Get your ass in the water. ... "
The whole post is worth a read.